Why do adults always have good intentions, great intentions even, but they always use the wrong media or method?
They often get very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very CONDESCENDING.
Since I was a kid, the only support I get from my parents is financial support. Be it through the house, the food, transport or books. It's only financial support. In my long 16 years, never have I gotten any mental or emotional support. But actually I'm partially thankful for this fact. Without it I wouldn't be where I am right now. I'm stronger than people at my age, even many older ones.
The father psychos you, the mother bitches by giving you the silent treatment, and then later when you try to settle up, she says you are ignoring her.
Don't get me wrong, parents always want the best for their children. But again, they always do it the wrong way, just like any other adult. Most of the time. Nearly always.
No matter how much your parents screw stuff up, you're gonna love them anyway. Even if we say we hate them, it's usually cause we can't stand to care anymore. Disappointment after disappointment hardens us up and we take our own small steps, and if we don't conceal our movements, our parents strive to bring us down under false impressions that we don't know what we're doing.
Show us the way if you think we're wrong, but please don't try to control us. Even God lets His children go their own way, but He guides them along the way. God doesn't have the remote control to your brain. Why should parents have the remote to ours?
Why should we submit to the school norm? What if your passion isn't included in the school curriculum nor the co-curriculum? We do it outside the school. But still your parents want force you to go through the school stuff. Even if you just don't get science, the point of add math or something else.
My point is, we know what we're doing. We're smart enough to know that. If we make mistakes, show us right from wrong, and let us continue our journey on the long road unharnessed. The only reason anyone does anything is because they want to, and against better reasoning - is right. Why does the thief steal? His financial needs obviously precede his well-being on the importance scale.
Sometimes, we need to do a little evil to do a far greater good.
That's already one kind of self-less sacrifice.
Adults get to do anything they want because they don't have their parents to control them (and often they do exactly what their guardians did to them to their own offspring or adopted children). Be it the book or movie they want to read, the work they have to complete or enjoy doing, the meal they prepare for their family's next meal, often late at night; adults do it because it's important to them.
Why can't we, the children, do the same?
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perfect timing,i was wanting to touch this subject too :D
I think its a transition thing, a residue of how THEY were treated by their own parents. Forget emotional support, everyone used to be grateful enough they have a roof over their heads. Since they clothe me, feed me, pay my phone bill gasp, theyre doing their job. Right?
What they cant seem to notice is that our minds are expanding, and some of us are perhaps a bit brighter than others (xD) and that we NEED to talk to them. As adults.
Yes, we might have our own opinions regarding school and ambitions so if they value school to such an extent, we should be clarified with acceptable rationales to back their decisions up instead of 'mommy wants you to have money when youre old' bleh.
Oh, they ARE the remote control to your brain alright, since if it wasnt for them, youd be naked and starved. According to mine.
Because we're totally dumb enough to think Malaysia is chock full of poverty stricken families. Ugh. We KNOW our standards of living and what our parents can afford LAH
Sorry, off topic xD
Anyway i would like to conclude,despite my lack of points, that deprivity of emotional/mental support creates a vicious cycle and we're all gonna grow up screwed.
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